How and What Should you do?

I just thought of this idea to put up this posting on my blog to ease some broken hearts (if anyone does follow this blog anyway). One reason I am doing this is because I actually provide some good advise to those who has just broken off from their partners (just like me 3 months ago) by putting all together all those wise words I've gotten from my LYN friends and some from my personal point of view.

First things first, I am not a professional or neither am I an expert in this, it's just my two cents worth of knowledge and experience I've gained so far.

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Let's get the ball rolling shall we?

"What should you do to get over a broken relationship?"

It's simple - obviously easier said than done -

1. Firstly, take your current state of your life to reflect on what you have done so far and repent from it. It may take sometime to do this but believe me, after going through this self-reflection, you will understand how much better it does get you.
2. Remember there's this saying that goes something like "Turn this failure into an opportunity"? Yes, for real, life is never perfect. There's plenty of ups and downs in life and this is just one of it. Inspite of this failure, why not take this chance as an opportunity to advance on in life as a free person not bounded to anything? Take this opportunity to meet more people and look at life at a different way? It could really mean a lot.
3. Step out from your comfort zone. Don't be doomed all day long or perhaps days/weeks/months/year or whatever, get yourself somethings to do that's worth while than to sit at home everyday in the room ranting about this and that and crying endlessly.
4. I bet everyone does this, gather some really close friends to talk about it (of course those whom you really trust). Don't be the one who does the talking all the time though. Let them have their say about yourself. It's more often than not, these friends of yours noticed a lot of things about you during that duration when you were with your better half.
5. Don't do crazy things like getting yourself drunk or hurt yourself. It's not going to work. Believe me.
6. Get yourselves busy with things such as your hobbies and friends. Nothing is better than getting back to mother nature for example having a camp in the jungle or a visit to the waterfall. It really helps you to calm down.
7. Don't keep thinking about how to get over the relationship and how to forget about it. In fact the more you think about how to get over it and to forget it, the more you will tend to remember and in turn hurts you more day after day.
8. Keep your body, mind and soul healthy. Example, go for jogs/swimming session/gym training etc.

"How should you go about it?"

This one shall be short. Once you have gotten all those above right, the following is how you should move on. Again it's easier said then done. But if you don't do, you are going to be stuck with your current state as how it is now.

Very importantly, don't fill your life with doubts anymore. When you decide to move on and look ahead, just do it. Don't have any doubts of doing it. Doubts here means "if's" and "but's". Yes the tow most dangerous words that would affect your every decision making. Don't go making decisions such as

"If I did this... it could have been like this." or "If I do this... But then if I really do it..."

You see, if you start making decisions like this, you aren't ready to move on. Review back what I've said above. If you have clearly understood all the above, you won't be saying "if's" and "But's" because you have set your mind clear of what you want to do without a doubt.

I always like to tell myself this, "What is done is done. There's is no way I can turn the time back and do this and do that. What I can do now is just look forward, far and wide and work towards a better life and move on without looking back and regretting."

*It's fine to look back and not repeat the same mistake we have done*

Life is full of regrets, but if we look back at it, why regret what we have done when we know we did what we can with our own capabilities?

I think I've said enough already. I hope that this post here would actually give some idea on what and how you should do to get over a broken relationship. The rest is left for you to decide. If you have a strong willpower, you shall pull it through. It may take time to get over it and move on. But believe me, once you have decided, to get over and move on, you will feel happier, more relieved, more relaxed and less pressured.

*Remember this, whatever that has happened and bound to happen, is inevitable*